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Part 21 - Gay Relationship Abuse - 1000 Reasons To Leave Him

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't easy. "Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them! This is a continuing series about: "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

I've received over 1500 emails from guys who are or have been in an abusive gay relationship.  Emails thanking me for bringing this issue front and center, thanking me for kind words, advice, hope and resources.  This column is dedicated to the guys out there, the abused partner in a verbally or physically abusive gay relationship.  One third of all gay relationships are abusive, yes one third!

101. When he comes home drunk after one of his "social engagements".

102. When he plays with himself more than he plays with you.

103. When he wears your clothes to go out with other guys.

104. When he pushes you down against a metal chair and you tear a ligament in your knee, you end up losing 20% of your hearing in the ear that was smashed against the metal, and you end up with back and blue marks all over your arms, legs, and face. Your knee is bandaged for a month while you have to use a cane. The doctor takes photos of all the injuries and says if I don't call the police, that next time it happens, his office will.

105. When his lame apology four days later is a dozen roses that die the next day.

TODAY'S ADVICE: If you are offered a book deal - take it! 

BIG ANNOUNCEMENT NEXT WEEK! BIG!

I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know." - Michael

Part 20 - Gay Relationship Abuse - 1000 Reasons To Leave Him

I've received over 1500 emails from guys who are or have been in an abusive gay relationship.  Emails thanking me for bringing this issue front and center, thanking me for kind words, advice, hope and resources.  This column is dedicated to the guys out there, the abused partner in a verbally or physically abusive gay relationship.  One third of all gay relationships are abusive, yes one third!

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't’t easy. "Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them! This is a continuing series about: "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

96. When you have a sick dying dog at home who needs to be fed, we need to get home, but he feels seeing a Holiday Light Show is more important.

97. When he tells the boyfriends he's in his 30's and you finally have the opportunity to have one tell you on the phone that he's a liar.

98. When you don't want to embarrass him, you do the laundry, you know he has a problem, even at 45 years old, a problem throughout your relationship, a problem since he was a kid, but you don't want to embarrass him no matter how many times he's mean, nasty or abusive.  He has a problem, he takes a shower everyday but at 45 years old he still can't wipe his ass. Guess what, after throwing me out on the street, I don't care if he's embarrassed, and best of all, he's finally doing his own crappy laundry!

99. He signs a contract that lists all the things he promises to do and change, and he breaks every promise in less than twenty four hours.

100. When you find out that it wasn't that he stopped loving you, it was that he never knew how.

Todays Advice:  "One Act Of Violence Doesn't Equal 100 Acts of Kindness!" - Simply said, easy to remember and why you need to get out.

I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know." - Michael

Part 19 - Gay Relationship Abuse - 1000 Reasons To Leave Him

I've received over 1500 emails from guys who are or have been in an abusive gay relationship.  Emails thanking me for bringing this issue front and center, thanking me for kind words, advice, hope and resources.  This column is dedicated to the guys out there, the abused partner in a verbally or physically abusive gay relationship.  One third of all gay relationships are abusive, yes one third!

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't’t easy. "Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them! This is a continuing series about: "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

91. When he takes you shopping for two new chairs for the den, and a few weeks later he has his attorney throw you out. Obviously the chairs weren’t for us.

92. When he throws you out and you have to pay for all the blood tests you have to take because you have to make sure he hasn’t given you any sexually transmitted diseases.

93. When saying "I love you" is only reserved for the latest guy he's having sex with.

94. When you have to sleep in a separate room with the door locked because you are scared of what he may do next.

95. When you find out that private details of your family are being shared with his sex partners as though it was general conversation.

Todays Advice:  "SHOUT IT OUT! - Don't Let Lies Lay!" - And do it when he least expects it, even if it's a year or two from the time he threw you out.  Let the world know the truth, what he did to you and who you really are,

I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know." - Michael

Part 18 - Gay Relationship Abuse - 1000 Reasons To Leave Him

I've received over 1500 emails from guys who are or have been in an abusive gay relationship.  Emails thanking me for bringing this issue front and center, thanking me for kind words, advice, hope and resources.  This column is dedicated to the guys out there, the abused partner in a verbally or physically abusive gay relationship.  One third of all gay relationships are abusive, yes one third!

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't’t easy. "Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them! This is a continuing series about: "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

86. When you rather eat dinner alone because it’s the same as eating dinner with him.

87. When his mother has to go on a business trip with him because she's also worried about him picking up other guys.

88. When he convinces you to move to another city because of his great new job, when he has you give up your health insurance because you are going to be on his group plan, and when he throws you out on the street, cancels your insurance and leaves you no way to get insured because of a pre-existing condition.

89. When you realize that he has no passion for life, no passion for love and no passion for you.

90. When the only thing you can trust about him is that he will continue to lie to you.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Todays Advice:  "You Can't Judge A Book By It's Cover" - Boy, is there a big surprise for him coming about this one.

I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know." - Michael

Part 17 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't’t easy. I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know."

"Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them!  This is a continuing series about "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

81. When you realize the only thing he knows how use well, is sex chat lines.

82. When the only endearing term he has for you is the word "you".

83. When he pretends to care that it's your birthday.

84. When you're glad he just kisses you on the forehead because you don't where his mouth was was today or on what or on whom.

85. When he cheats, has sex with a guy for eight months and still doesn't know his real name.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Todays Advice:  "Talk is Cheap" - Unless you have it all recorded!

First Things First: ---- Michael's Daily Diary ---- Hopes, Wishes & Dreams

Steven moved out of the building we had both lived in two years after I left the city. He had split up with his partner who moved back to New York. Steven moved about a half hour away to a beautiful contemporary home overlooking the ocean. The house is furnished with the same warmth and passion for life that I so love in him. I could easily go on and on about the evening ambiance of the ocean, his love for art and music and so much more. I want to share all of this with you as time goes on and try my best to to let you know about the loving footprint he has placed in my heart.

There's so much to tell you and I'm trying to figure out a good way of putting it together. But most importantly, I'm trying very hard to express from my heart how so many years of pain has now been comforted. I have now been deeply embraced and surrounded with the love of the most beautiful person I have ever met.

I stopped dreaming years ago as my ex robbed me of each wish, each hope and each dream. He turned them all into one nightmare after another. I was crushed and abused for years and then finally discarded.

I've waited so long to once again feel alive, to once again be able to express my love and compassion. I've learned a lot and I see a lot better now. I am resilient and once again I am strong with a great passion for life. I learned that nothing was ever beyond belief because my hopes, wishes and dreams have returned and Steven is one of them. It was my fate.  Next: He's Sexy!

Michael

Part 16 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn't’t easy. I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know."

"Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them!  This is a continuing series about "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

76. When before he throws you out you've written in your diary what turns out to be more than 1000 reasons of why he has tried to get rid of you, but you're to despondent to tell anyone.

77. When he purposely leaves his dirty underwear in the middle of the living room so you have to either pick it up step over it.  And I mean dirty! 

78. When he tells you he's looking for someone else with more money after he's gone through all of yours.

79. When you are in the car for almost two hours and he never says a word.

80. When he tells you that you've ruined his life.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Todays Advice:  Evil Never Wins - You'll realize that after you've away from him a few months!

Part 15 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them!  This is a continuing series about "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

"Packaging up a previous nightmare to make room for the rest of your life wasn’t easy. I promised myself to let the process move at it’s own speed.  When I was ready, I would ship off the old crap from the relationship nightmare that my ex created for me over 18 years. I also realized part of what I needed was to make sure every person along the original route would finally know the truth whether it was via this blog, or other means. Unlike my past eighteen years with him, this would no longer be his continuous abusive surprise package.  The truth has been recently packaged on my terms because I was finally ready for everyone to know."

71. When he is willing to physically abuse you in hopes that he and his newest boyfriend will get you to leave quicker.

72. When you learn that his lies and deceptions reach far beyond you and include his job and his family.

73. When he has taken more pornographic pictures of himself over 18 years than pictures of the two of us as a couple.

74. When he doesn’t want to hold your hand anymore.

75.  When in the end he makes it clear he would rather see you dead, then see you at all.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Todays Advice:  Keep a Diary! - It's an outlet, it's way to feel not quite as lonely, and when you finally get out of the nigthmare, it's a great way to look back and clearly see why there were 1000 reasons to leave him!

As Soon As I Return: My Personal Story And What You've Been Wondering!

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Part 14 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them!  This is a continuing series about "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

66. When he says he's going to make something for me for my birthday, he never gives it to me, and I find it years later unfinished thrown in a closet.

67. When his verbal abuse is so intense, when he has beaten you so far into the ground, when he has become so demeaning and has isolated you from as many people as he possibly can, when you become so afraid to even talk, when you are so scared of him coming home at night, you find it impossible to pick yourself up and ask someone, anyone, to help you.

68. When he stops saying "I love you" because he saves those words for his newest boyfriend.

69. When he gave me a card for our anniversary and I could barely read it because at that point of the relationship I knew he never meant a word of it.

70. When I have to make another trip to the doctor and I'm told if I don't call the police on him, they will.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Today's Advice: "Old Habits Die Hard" - Is this why he could never stop lying, never stop cheating, and never stop being abusive?

Part 13 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

Sometimes things need to be said, and they need to be said, because you’re finally ready to say them!  This is a continuing series about "A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

61. When he can no longer look me in the eye.

62. When I'm in the same room with him and it feels like I'm alone.

64. When I try to make his weekly scheduled sex me with more romantic, I light candles, put on music, and try to show him that making love can be more than just getting off.  And then the following week he asks me if he has to light a candle to have sex.

65. When he stops asking me how my day was because he no longer cares.

65. When no matter hard you try to find one, there are no longer any Hallmark cards that can describe how you feel about him.

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

Today's Advice: "Love Makes The World Go Around" - And for him it was all around the town.

Part 12 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

56. When he tells you how much he loves you and says he knows he always takes advantage of you, apologizes and then continues the same cycle of abuse.

57. When he lies and deceives the first psychologist that he agreed to go to, and never lets on that he has been having unprotected sex with other guys for years.

58. When you still don't know about him having sex with other guys but it becomes necessary to separate for three weeks because of his constant verbal abuse.  While separated, he talks to you on the phone every night and tells you how much he loves you and how he wants to come home. Later you find out he was having sex with other guys even during those three weeks.

59. When in the last months that he's trying to throw you out in the street, he's willing to do anything to hurt you, including physical violence.

60. When in the morning, the moment he walks out of the house, he's already calling his newest boyfriend on the cellphone, even before he gets to his car.

COMING SOON: THE TIME LINE - TRYING TO MAKE SENSE OF WHAT WAS OBVIOUSLY A SENSELESS RELATIONSHIP.

Today's Advice: "Seeing is believing." - Especially when there are video tapes.

Part 11 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

51, When he refuses to let me have my personal items that belonged to me long before I ever met him. 

52, When he was too lazy to cash a check and walked around with no money, I would always place a folded hundred dollar bill in his wallet as emergency money. Over the years he would keep using my cash in his wallet, not for an emergency, but just to spend it.  When you love someone as much as I did, I never questioned him, I just continued to place money in his wallet over almost 18 years, which probably added up over a few thousand dollars.

53. When I spent hours cooking a meal for him, and he lets me know it's not as good as his mothers.  ( a little side note of irony - in the later years he went visit his mother, came back and told me her food was disgusting. )

54. When he keeps his cellphone always locked and on vibrate.

55. When I went shopping with him for his birthday, helped him pick out a new watch, I ordered it, but before the watch arrived, he was already wearing the same watch.  I asked him where he got the watch and he had no answer, I told him that I had already bought the watch that we picked out together, and he told me to return it. I found out later that his new boyfriend bought it for him.

Coming soon: - Martini's, hairy chests, the hidden secret in daddy's car, 32 Express envelopes and more of his sex partners contact me.

Today Advice: "The walls have ears." - And sometimes a lot more.

Part 10 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

46. When he's cheating, lying, and placing my life in jeopardy because he's stupid enough to have unprotected sex with all of the guys he picks ups, and then tells everyone around him that it's all my fault.

47. When after a long day all you ask for is just hug, and he just looks at you.

48. When you own four little Yorkies throughout most of the relationship, and in the later years as they each get older and need constant care and attention until their time to pass on arrives, he leaves you with all of their daily care.  After the last little dog died he no longer needed me, and it took him less than 24 hours to make my living in the house more impossible than ever.  Taking advantage of me was no longer as important as getting rid if me. I was never even allowed a couple of days to grieve the loss of my last dog, without his verbal abuse.

49. When his lies become more frequent than the truth.

50. When he takes his underwear, rolls them up, and hides them from you. (a lot more about this disgusting habit coming soon.)

Today's Advice: "Give the devil his due." - Especially this devil!

Part 9 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

41. When his lack of compassion for others becomes so evident - that when his grandmother is placed in an extended care facility because of her failing health I have to spend weeks trying to convince him how important it is just to call her and stay in touch.

42. When he meets someone that he knows while we're both out together and he doesn't bother to introduce me.

43. When his newest boyfriend tells him on the cell phone that he can't leave his family right now because he will end up in in the "poorhouse".  He then tells the boyfriend not to worry he'll take care of him.  Of course what he doesn't tell the boyfriend is he can barely afford to pay his own bills because his debt is so high. (more about this special boyfriend coming soon).

44. When he makes the same hour long cell phone call every night at 12 midnight.

45. When after his parents get divorced - for years he refers to his father's new wife as the "whore".  No matter how many times over the next couple of years I try explaining to him that she's a lovely person and both his father and his new wife don't deserve that, he continues.

( To be continued, 955 more to go, and click here for the first 40 )

Today's Advice: "Tomorrow is another day."  And thank God he's not part of it.

Part 8 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

36. When he takes all of his jewelry and valuables to the office so he can hide them from me. Later I learned he was worried that I might find out what he was doing with other guys and the extent of his lies, so he was afraid I might take something.  { A rather stupid idea of his, since I bought most of his jewelry for him and taking a piece of jewelry would be the last thought I would have. }

37. When he tells you he doesn't like to be touched while having sex.

38. When after you are together for over three years and you become concerned about frequent strange gestures he makes when he thinks you're not looking. You see these quirky movements that include him taking both hands and doing a finger dance on his head while making strange facial expressions.  You are also aware that after three years, we still have no friends.  You become so concerned about his odd behavior, you call two experts for suggestions and help.  You are told that most likely he has a very specific disorder that is not treatable and could worsen in the future.  You make a life decision, and decide that you love him so unconditionally that you are willing to take care of him no matter what. Knowing there is nothing that be done, you keep the information quiet as not to cause embarrassment or grief for him, his family, or his career.  As the years go on you do your best to protect him and his health, and you become acutely aware of another symptom of this disorder, his lack of empathy and compassion for others. You realize that he is unable to maintain close relationships with other people beyond casual or sexual, and later learn that he has never had a close or best friend his entire life. Then after 15 years of being together he tells you that you are not, nor have you ever been his best friend.  After nearly 18 years, you find out that he spent the last ten years deceiving you, lying and cheating, has no remorse, and another new boyfriend.  He then hires an attorney to throw me out on the street for his newest boyfriend. Even after I was thrown out, I still chose not to reveal any of this information.  Now, I've changed my mind.

39. When the extent of his dinner conversation is limited to guessing the puzzle on the "Wheel of Fortune".

40. When he takes an extra set of clothes with him to go out for the day.

( To be continued, 965 more to go, and click here for the first 35 )

Today's Advice: Look On The Bright Side! - "I finally have my life back since I'm no longer with him."

Part 7 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

31. When the only serious collection he has accumulated during our relationship is porn magazines.

32. When one of his past boyfriends calls me and tells me that he knows every private detail of my life, including family members names, my private finances, everywhere I have lived, and more.

33. When he loses his job and you arrange a new job for him.  Years later, you find out that his favorite type of customer service was having unprotected sex in the back office with guys off the street.

34. When I'm in the hospital for five days and the total amount of time he visited me was less than one hour.

35. When the only book you ever saw him finish was the life story of Joey Stefano, gay porn star.

( To be continued, 965 more to go, and click here for the first 30 )

Today's Advice:  A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words!  - So I guess hundreds of pictures are worth a million.  And are the voice recordings worth even more?

Continued after the jump:

Part 6 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

26. When no matter where you go, he always walks three to six feet ahead of you.

27. When you have a 16 year old dog, a little Yorkie that is dying, a dog that I loved so dearly and cared for until the end..  She was partially blind and could barely eat without my help.  He comes home, sits down near where she is trying to stand, and purposely flicks her in the nose with two fingers. She is stunned because she couldn't see it coming.  I am appalled, I take her in my arms and ask why he just did that, and he says "because she likes it". 

28. When he goes to bed each night and needs to put his hand between his legs so he can take his fingers and put them by his nose and enjoy the smell of himself to be able to fall sleep.

29. When you are riding in the car on the highway and out of complete silence he says "this is a good place for you to jump."

30. When you are given the option of having your once a week sex before or after Sunday's grocery shopping.

(To be continued, 970 more to go, so stay tuned )

Today's Advice: Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover - Especially when all the pages are empty!

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Part 5 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series

"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael

This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.

1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:

21. When I provided the down payment for our first house he didn't even say thank you.

22. When his idea of sexual foreplay with me became the opening a bottle of "Wet" lube.

23. When he yelled and screamed, and was so verbally abusive for hours, and I reached a point where I was crying hysterically, he continued until I could no longer catch my breath, I was gasping for air, while he walked out to go watch television.

24. When he constantly blamed me for everything that was wrong in his life.

25. When one of his boyfriends ( sex encounters ) who I tracked down, told me I needed to get out of there,  that "he's a liar and he's crazy". ( More details about his two long-term sex partners and how he tried to hide their identities without success - coming soon ).

(To be continued, 975 more to go, so stay tuned )

Today's Advice: If you are forced to play, play to win!  After he and the boyfriend throw you out on the street and continue to play games with your life, don't let them continue to get the best of you.  Play along with their sick games, let them think they've got you fooled -- then call "Checkmate" when you're ready.

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