A Very Personal Note To My Readers

I would like to share with you as to why recently the site has taken a rather "melancholic turn".  In truth it has revealed some of the events in my personal life as an 18 year relationship finally ended after years of lies, deception, cheating and abuse.  You will gain some further insight if you mouse-over the pictures and note the articles of Friday, April 11, 2008.

As you know, my site is not a running personal blog and was never intended to be.  You will also note sporadic quotes by MJS or the rather sarcastic Unfortunate Cookies over the past months.  All of these small posts were part of a much larger process of my personal empowerment and a subtle way placing the reality of the situation right out front for me to see, while the readers got small hints.   Amazingly, I have received dozens of emails from readers who picked up on the subtle changes and related many of my posts to their own lives. 

You'll see a different tone now as the weeks go on, as Friday marked a very special day for me.  Sorry about being so cryptic, but I have always tried to keep my personal life outside of GAYTWOGETHER.  During this very difficult time it was hard not to in some way express myself on the site, a site that was and will always be a labor of love.

Today, I CAN SEE BETTER because I now know "the love I saw in his eyes was merely a reflection of my own".

I appreciate your readership, and hope that you will understand.  I am always open to your suggestions and comments and warmly welcome any you may have.

My Best,
Michael
GAYTWOGETHER
Email G2G

Comments

[StevieD]

Thankyou

[Jim]

Dear Michael,

I've touched this site from time to time to uplift my life and to approve my desires for men.

You are a loving, selfless gay man, that gay part is important because we are a special group of men who must learn to love ourselves, then our sexuality then another man.

On this site, you've given yourself and now have presented a painful realization. Sometimes it's time to breakdown and rebuild our life, our love or our dreams.

Take heart my dear Michael, your gay brothers across this great earth are listening to you and loving you.

Who am I? A man born gay, to be one with all other gay men and to open my arms and my heart to all men I meet, play or sleep with.

May your heart find peace and comfort. May God be with you at this time.

James in Wisconsin

[John]

Dear Michael,

Thank you so much for sharing the personal events in your life. Your website has helped countless numbers of men navigate relationships in responsible ways. I can only hope that the readership can now support you.

John

[Randy]

Dear Michael,
Please know how thankful I am for all your efforts here. You do an absolutely wonderful job in every way. I am late to the gay world, and found it hard to find a well rounded informative site, until I found yours. I've been naive in so many ways about gay life, and have learned so much here. It has been so rewarding to know there is more to gay computer sites, than just porn...although even that is something we all enjoy as well. I am saddened to learn of your situation, and send my very best wishes as you recover and grow even stronger for the experience. I did learn long ago, that there are just as many, maybe more, disappointments in the gay life, as in the hetero life. We are all the same, no matter our sexual preference, when it comes to having feelings and wanting to become and remain connected with someone we love in just as many ways as other men love their women. We are human. Please feel me reaching out to comfort you and wishing I could give you a hug of brotherly love at this time. Since joining your site, you've certainly made an impression on my own life. You are a special person, and all the other comments here are evidence of that. It has allowed me to feel the closeness and understanding and support of fellow gay men. I am looking forward to the day you share the news of a new relationship in your life Michael. That day will come, and you will well deserve all our congratulations. Know you CAN lean on us, and feel our hearts and souls with you. "Without feeling sadness, how could we value joy?" Wishing you only good things, always.

[Joseph]

My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. I have enjoyed your blog for some time. It is always very well done and informative as well. Please take care of yourself. Thanks for all the time you put into this most creative blog.

[david Lee]

betrail is a very hard pill to swallow, i too have been through this, and i tell you that "this too will pass", so no dark thoughts and be a stronger person than he who used you. thinking of you, dL

[brian]

michael- wishing you the best in this trying time. -b

[Charly]

Dear Michaël,
I'm so sorry for you.
All the best !
Charles from Brussels (Belgium)

[Roger/San Diego]

Michael;
Thank you for sharing your personal feelings with us. I had noted a change in your blog and was curious, thought maybe you were running low on thoughts and desire for the blog so was doing just the basics. I am both sad, and glad to know the reason for the change. I have always taken great pleasure from your blog and have enjoyed many of your great eye candy pictures as a screensaver. Please know our thoughts are with you and hopefully the days ahead will be happier for you.Peace,
Roger

[victor]

I am so sorry, I've been through your very same ordeal. Thank you for letting usfaithful readers, know your grief. Every week I look for your unique blog which I consider the best gay blogs. I hope you will find a Mr. Right in the future

[tim]

Michael, I detected a change. I am sorry to hear about the pain you are suffering. Thank you for sharing with us. I think I speak for most of your readers when I say we appreciate it and are here for you at this time.

[Michael]

Well, here's another Michael chiming in here. You should rename this the Michael column.

Thank you for sharing this pain with us. I visit this blog every day and have always wondered about the person behind the on-line publishings. Little did I know how much the postings were reflective of the track your life was taking.

I am so very sorry - losing a relationship, even a bad one, is so very painful. His Holiness The Dalai Lama has been in Seattle for the last few days, and I have spent a great deal of time listening to him speak about compassion. Your life is likely full of pain right now, and I completely empathize.

For whatever it's worth, take care of yourself. Be good to yourself. Insulate yourself. Cry, throw things, do whatever you have to but don't bottle things up. Try to be as well as possible while you heal. I am sending positive thoughts your way.

My best regards -
Michael in Seattle

[Jordy]

Dear Michael,
We are so very very sorry.

Love,
George and Ward

[Marcus]

Michael wrote: "Today, I CAN SEE BETTER
because I now know "the love I saw
in his eyes was merely a reflection
of my own."

Little did many of us know there's love with the real people on the other side of the screen, too. Insidiously slowly, it creeps in. We watch for daily posts, and discover the author can never be separated from his words.

Keep your kite flying high, my man.

[Michael]

Michael,

Thank you for sharing your situation with your readers. I find your blog both entertaining and informative. The photos are pretty easy on the eyes as well. :) Our blogs are very different, but I have found support and friendship in sharing with my readers and I hope that you will have the same experience.

I also hope you successfully weather the transition to a new life free from the unhappy past and that you will find someone who appreciates what I detect to be your sensitivity and kind and loving heart.

Michael-in-Norfolk