Part 5 - My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series
"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael
This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.
1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:
21. When I provided the down payment for our first house he didn't even say thank you.
22. When his idea of sexual foreplay with me became the opening a bottle of "Wet" lube.
23. When he yelled and screamed, and was so verbally abusive for hours, and I reached a point where I was crying hysterically, he continued until I could no longer catch my breath, I was gasping for air, while he walked out to go watch television.
24. When he constantly blamed me for everything that was wrong in his life.
25. When one of his boyfriends ( sex encounters ) who I tracked down, told me I needed to get out of there, that "he's a liar and he's crazy". ( More details about his two long-term sex partners and how he tried to hide their identities without success - coming soon ).
(To be continued, 975 more to go, so stay tuned )
Today's Advice: If you are forced to play, play to win! After he and the boyfriend throw you out on the street and continue to play games with your life, don't let them continue to get the best of you. Play along with their sick games, let them think they've got you fooled -- then call "Checkmate" when you're ready.
Continued after the jump:
Finding out all the nasty details during the last months before it was over, learning the specific names of people, the places, what they did, and much more, was extremely overwhelming. The seriousness of his lies and deception, and the lengths that he and some of his boyfriends were willing to go, to destroy my life and to destroy other families, makes you wonder – who was this person I lived with?
You’ll find that many of my 1000 reasons are written with some sarcastic humor and some are so unbelievable that not an ounce of humor could be attached. However, they’re all based on real life, a really long relationship with a really wrong person. Trying to understand what happened may not be easy, and the recovery from a long, abusive, deceptive relationship is a difficult journey.
Putting your thoughts in print is empowering. So, read them, talk about them, or laugh or cry about them. Share them with someone you know that could possibly use them. But, I think you’ll agree, they should never happen again, not to me, not to you, and especially not to anyone that you profess to truly love.
I remember doing the "checkmate" and it worth the wait! You are really giving some wonderful suggestions to so many!!!
Posted by: Jim | May 19, 2008 at 10:06 AM