"This was my life for almost 18 years until recently. A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael
Here they are, the first set of 1000 reasons why you should leave him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.
Finding out all the nasty details during the last months before it was over, learning the specific names of people, the places, what they did, and much more, was extremely overwhelming.
The seriousness of his lies and deception, and the lengths that he and some of his boyfriends were willing to go, to destroy my life and to destroy other families, makes you wonder – who was this person I lived with?
You’ll find that many of my 1000 reasons are written with some sarcastic humor and some are so unbelievable that not an ounce of humor could be attached. However, they’re all based on real life, a really long relationship with a really wrong person. Trying to understand what happened may not be easy, and the recovery from a long, abusive, deceptive relationship is a difficult journey.
Putting your thoughts in print is empowering. So, read them, talk about them, or laugh or cry about them. Share them with someone you know that could possibly use them. But, I think you’ll agree, they should never happen again, not to me, not to you, and especially not to anyone that you profess to truly love.
Gay Relationships: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him
1. When on your 14th Anniversary and he’s on a 3 day business trip, he calls you to say how much he loves you, while at the same time he’s in bed with another guy who he took on the trip with him.
2. When he receives over 125 unlisted cellphone calls in less than 2 months, claims it’s business, and says all the people he does business with have unlisted numbers.
3. When he’s on his cellphone at 12 midnight, under a blanket on the living couch (so he thinks he can’t be heard). He's talking to his latest boyfriend of several months, telling him how much he loves him, he even cries on the phone about how much he wants to be with him for the rest of his life. Then after the call ends, within ten minutes, he signs on to his computer, gets a trial membership at gay.com, looks at ads from local guys, and then goes to Craig’s list to look at dozens of m4m ads for guys who want sex right now.
4. When he spends over $5,000.00 on sex-chat line calls and hides all the bills and records of payment.
5. When you’re brushing off his suit jacket before you hang it up, and a bottle of poppers drops out of the inside pocket. You have never used poppers and neither has he when he's been with you. So when he gets home that evening, you ask him what they’re for, and he says he’s holding them for a friend at work.
( To be continued, 995 more to go, so stay tuned )
Today's Advice: If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, either you or someone who cares about you may want to hire a private detective.
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