Part 4- My Personal Story: 1000 Reasons To Leave Him - A Continuing Series
"A really long relationship with a really wrong person." - Michael
This is a my personal life for almost 18 years and my continuing series of 1000 Reasons To Leave Him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid.
1000 Reasons To Leave Him - Continued:
16. When he starts writing and cashing large checks and tells you he needs to keep emergency money in his office.
17. When he works ten minutes from the house, says he has to work an extra hour, and then he's caught in traffic jam that lasts over an another hour ( 1 hour + 1 hour = 2 hours of ? ).
18. When you wake up in the middle of the night and you think you hear the televison. It turns out to be him moaning while having sex and doing drugs with some guy in the living room. And then, making sure it's loud enough for me to hear, he's tells the guy to wait a minute because he wants to watch him get off. ( More about the other guy soon ).
19. When in November he tells you that he's decided we're not having Christmas this year.
20. When he calls you from his latest "business dinner" and you ask him what restaurant he's at. He says he doesn't know, so you ask him to look at the name on the menu, and he tells you there is no name on the menu.
(To be continued, 980 more to go, so stay tuned )
Today's Advice: "If it's your truth, and his lies, it's best to have video tapes.
Continued after the jump:
Finding out all the nasty details during the last months before it was over, learning the specific names of people, the places, what they did, and much more, was extremely overwhelming. The seriousness of his lies and deception, and the lengths that he and some of his boyfriends were willing to go, to destroy my life and to destroy other families, makes you wonder – who was this person I lived with?
You’ll find that many of my 1000 reasons are written with some sarcastic humor and some are so unbelievable that not an ounce of humor could be attached. However, they’re all based on real life, a really long relationship with a really wrong person. Trying to understand what happened may not be easy, and the recovery from a long, abusive, deceptive relationship is a difficult journey.
Putting your thoughts in print is empowering. So, read them, talk about them, or laugh or cry about them. Share them with someone you know that could possibly use them. But, I think you’ll agree, they should never happen again, not to me, not to you, and especially not to anyone that you profess to truly love.
Totally feel your pain! Been there myself...
Posted by: Jim | May 18, 2008 at 09:03 AM
Re: #19
I think my reply would have been along the lines of... "Cancel Christmas? How about I cancel your ass too?" followed quickly by, "Don't let the doorknob hit ya where the good Lord split ya."
I'm just sayin' :-)
Posted by: Vanyel | May 16, 2008 at 02:33 PM
Man... I would have shot someone for # 18.
Posted by: Mike | May 15, 2008 at 06:41 PM