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The Very Thought Of Him - 10/31/11

 
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Gay Relationships: Body Image Pressures

Research shows that gay men don’t like their bodies very much. That might seem surprising, given the amount of time many of us spend at the gym. We probably devote more time and effort to cultivating our physical selves than any other demographic group. Just the same, research indicates that straight men like their bodies most, followed by gay women; straight women like their bodies less than these first two. The group that likes their physical appearance the least is gay men.

Why is this? Gay men spend a lot of time in places that place a premium on physical appearance: bars, gyms, sex clubs. We live in a sexualized subculture that places a premium on physical beauty, and media and advertising bombard us with images that reflect an impossibly high standard of physical beauty. Under circumstances like these, it’s easy to confuse who you are with how you look.

We all like to see attractive men, of course. Still, more and more men – even men with bodies that most of us would agree are muscular and very attractive – find themselves very dissatisfied with how they look. At it’s most extreme, this situation is called body dysmorphia – a preoccupation with some imagined defect in appearance when the person involved is actually very normal looking. This problem can lead to depression and trouble forming healthy relationships.

G2G Gallery Guys - Monday Morning

 
 
 
 G2G Gallery Guy Collection

HAPPY "MONSTER" HALLOWEEN - MJ & GAGA - VIDEO

 

Quotes & Quips - William Somerset Maugham

"It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best you very often get it." - William Somerset Maugham

Vintage Photo Memories - Men Twogether

Vintage Photo Memories - Men Twogether - Gallery

The Very Thought Of Him - 10/28/11

The Very Thought Of Him Gallery

Gay Relationships: Dating Tactics: Your First Date - Do’s & Don’ts - Part Two

Nothing gets the heart pumping quite like the nervous anticipation that goes along with going out on a first date with a guy.

[  CONTINUED FROM YESTERDAY  ] - PART TWO: 

During the Date:

Be attentive to your date. Show respect by maintaining good eye contact and don’t let those eyes stray if there are other attractive men in the room. Have an open posture and let your nonverbal communication and body language convey interest in learning about your date.

Stay out of your own head and shut off those distracting thoughts; really listen to what he’s saying. Balance active listening with sharing things about yourself. Ask open-ended questions to gain more elaboration on points made in your discussion to stretch out conversations and learn more about your date. This is especially effective if you’re feeling shy or are short on things to say because it gets the other person talking more, allowing for more tidbits that you can start other dialogues about. Be positive and let your sense of humor shine through. 

Avoid controversial topics of discussion as these may be offensive to your date. You can ease into these the more you get to know him. Avoid alcohol, as this may alter your behavior, and stay away from sexual content and innuendo. Unless sex is the motivation for your date, introducing sexual talk into your first date can set the tone in an inappropriate direction. Discussions about sex and sexual preferences can come later after you’ve been able to establish more of a genuine, mature connection. Questions like “Are you a top or a bottom?” may appear crass at a first meeting and may cause an unfavorable impression of you to form in your date’s mind.

G2G Gallery Guys - Friday's Fantasy

  
 
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Quotes & Quips - Oscar Wilde

"The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it." - Oscar Wilde