I’m new to dating men and this is the first relationship I’ve been in with a man. I’m not sure if the guy I’m involved with really loves me the way I do him. He’s not really blessed financially and I tend to support him with a lot of his needs. I can’t help but wonder if he’s clinging on to me for that reason. I love him, but I don’t want to continue the relationship if he’s only with me for that purpose. _____________________________________________
It is very important in dating to pace a new relationship slowly so that you can get to know your dating partner well enough to determine if he meets your needs for a relationship and life partner. By going slow, this allows the relationship to evolve naturally and gives you time to observe his attitudes and behavior over time before becoming too emotionally involved and invested.
Tempering your infatuation, attraction, and excitement about the budding romance is critical at this stage so as not to become blinded to important clues that speak to whether this new guy you’re seeing is actually a good fit for you.
It’s important to have fun and enjoy the process of the dating relationship, but it’s vital to balance this with appropriate boundaries to allow time to assess his potential for true “boyfriend material.”