At dinner few months ago, friend of mine confessed that it drove him crazy when well-meaning friends and co-workers told him they had no idea why he is still available when he is such obvious husband material. It's true; my friend is a sexy guy with a great personality and a fine job. To say that he has been frustrated by his lack of success in dating would be an understatement. Problem is, my buddy's job keeps him busy. He's also involved with volunteer projects with kids, and he lives near his aging parents so he can spend more time with them.
While Jack (not his real name) is a sociable guy with many friends and contacts, it could be a long time before he finds Mr. Right. While he has friends, his social circle tends to e restricted primarily to a group of men and women he's especially comfortable with. When you take a look at it, the circle isn't all that big.
So - perhaps the best definition of madness is "doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. Yet this is exactly what many of us do. We keep living our lives the same old way and things stay pretty much the same as they always have. We are waiting for lightning to strike us.
If you would like to make some changes in your romantic life, you might start by making a list of the men you've dated or been in relationship with over your lifetime. Where did you meet them? Are these men similar in any way? How happy were you with your connection to them?